The dating game here at college seems to be everyone's main concern/focus at home and among family while I am here at college. As exciting as dating is, it isn't all that it is played up to be. Things are definitely different from High School. You can usually tell if a man is interested in you if they ask you out once and then again the following week or the week after that. Generally, they move fast. It is a difficult situation because you never really know what their intentions are without bringing up the subject strait up, and most of the time you don't want to ruin a friendship over it. One RM asked me out a couple of times then told me that he would like to continue dating me. After I shed some light on how I felt about that, he and I haven't really been in contact since. Only in passing. Sad...
As a woman, it is hard not to see yourself as an object (not a person) of desire after you have been asked out by different boys each weekend within the space of a month. I'm not even that cute! It is like the men are so focused on what they don't have and need before they graduate, that they don't see what is really there. Maybe that is a wee bit harsh...Not all men attending college are like that.
In any case, I have been out on a few this semester and have really enjoyed a date with a pre-missionary almost the most. It was a good date, because I knew where we stood, and it was easier to relax, knowing that he wasn't analyzing everything about me. We both had good attitudes about it, and in realizing that, I may admit that the problem may lie in me. Maybe I just need a better attitude on the subject. Maybe I need to see them for who they are as well: a man striving for the blessings of a temple marriage. A man willing to take risk.
I'll have a whole summer to work on that one. I am returning home within the next month and don't expect to get a lot of action while at home. I didn't go out that often in my hometown when I was attending high school. I have to say, it will almost be a relief.
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First of all, they are all asking you out because you ARE cute. And just be grateful because not all of us girls had the privilege of getting asked out every weekend by a plethora of guys. Second of all, you probably didn't get asked out in high school because you had a close group of friends that you always were with, "one" in particular!
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